It’s the Champion leagues season and your club is playing in the finals.
You have prayed. You have calculated. You have entered the psyche of the coach and you have a foolproof game plan all perfectly arranged. You have watched old matches to boost your confidence. You are ready!
And now the D-Day is here!
As the lead striker from the competitors weave the ball towards the goal post of your club, you get into a frenzy and…..
Before you realise what’s going on, you are praying frantically.
DEAR GOD, PLEASE LET THEM MISS!! DON’T LET THEM SCORE!!!
With all your might, you HOPE they fail.
I hope you can relate. If you can’t, there are countless instances when you may have wished others would fail.
We’ve all been there.
We do our best + hope the competition screws up.
Whether in the passionate moments of the big football game. At an interview where there is competition. At a promotion presentation at work. When someone else dared to smile at the person you like. The moment before the winner of a competition is announced. During a sales presentation to win a client…the list is endless.
But here’s the deal…
Wishing others failure is not a strategy for success. Instead, race your own horse faster than try to stop someone’s horse from running fast.
WHAT THEN SHOULD BE YOUR STRATEGY FOR SUCCESS
Two thoughts on this…[Tweet “It’s better to win by excellence than by climbing on the failures of someone else”]
‘Is this possible?’ you ask. Since most of us have been conditioned to ‘kill or be killed’, we are on the ‘survival of the fittest’ mode most of the time. Instead of seeing the other party as a worthy opponent, we view them as ‘the enemy.
Like I said earlier, we have mostly been ‘conditioned’, so it’s not really our fault. But in order to make a change and begin to do the ‘right thing’, a mentality shift is necessary – there’s more than enough business (and success) for everyone who wants it.
When you know that their success DOES NOT EQUAL your failure, you will live and let live. And surprisingly, you will begin to succeed (mostly because you now use all that energy looking for ways to succeed rather than wishing others failure).
Two, you should actually wish others well. Why?
Wishing others would fail is kind of like a hidden ‘buy one get one free offer’. You wish them failure and “buy” some disappointment for yourself as well. You invite the same energy that you are sending out.
So, do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
Even if you are really desperate , it is better to win knowing that you kicked some ass honorably, rather than wishing someone would fail so you could ride on their failure.
So in a nutshell….
The next time you notice your competition could use some help, offer it to them. If they forget the answer to a question, point them in the right direction.
It’s the right thing to do. And it does not make you a failure.
My belief is that you if actively exercise this ‘do the right thing’ muscle in situations when you do have time to think it out and process it before acting, you are more likely to instinctively use it when there is no time to think about it.
When we get to this place of confidence, we actually wish our competitors well…..
And that is when our success actually begins!
What is your strategy for success? Share in the comments box below.